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All the "Firsts" of 2008

Published: December 30, 2008

As we are on the cusp of another year, I spent some time with my family and reflected back on 2008 and all the “firsts” that have occurred – both good and bad.

This year, my daughter turned two, and with that came a whole new found sense of independence with the word “me” shouted at anyone who tried to do something for her.

My son turned five this year, and with that came the concept of “big boy” and understanding that he was a role model for his sister.  It also came with the notion that because he was a “big boy”, he could make his own decisions without us interfering. He was deflated when he discovered that wasn’t the case.

My son took his first trip to Disneyland, and had his first ride on an airplane.  It was a great experience for him, and not so much for my husband and I.  Next time I will prepare myself for the crazy line-ups and miles of walking, with my daughter’s “first” visit.

My son started kindergarten this past fall. It was an emotional rollercoaster – not for him necessarily, but more for me. I discovered that I have a problem with change. And with my son spending a full-day each Friday at school, it sent me for a tailspin to have an entire day without him.

However, I found that by volunteering for the “Hot Lunch” program, I could be nearer to him every second Friday and also help out the school too.  Now – we are both happy.

I was able to spend more one-on-one time with my daughter this fall. It has given us both an opportunity to communicate more and focus in on what she likes to do (instead of having to share the attention with her brother).

I became an Aunt for the very first time, with the birth of my nephew.  My sister became a mom - and I was able to share in the joy of his birth.  There is nothing like looking in to the eyes of a newborn – and seeing the hope that they bring with them.

My son lost his first tooth this December, which inadvertently popped out on the floor during “movie afternoon” at his school.  When he came home, he forgot that it had fallen out and pleaded with me to retrieve it.  It wouldn’t have been such a big deal with the school located a block away – however it was a blizzard out and the temperature was below zero. 

But if you are a mom – you know the meaning of “firsts” and so I trudged up to the school, and pleaded with the school administrator to open the school doors back up.

She took pity on me and ushered me in, only to discover a room lined with kernels of popcorn (which by the way, if you didn’t know – happens to look EXACTLY like tiny teeth).

Needless to say, I didn’t find the tooth, but had to construct one out of paper. We were lucky the tooth fairy understood our dilemma that night.

My son learned to read this year. He can sound out the letters and read full sentences.  Being able to see your child read and having their world open up through books is miraculous. His confidence has been bolstered because of this new achievement. 

And finally, this year was my daughter’s first year to really understand and appreciate Christmas.  Her innocent awe and delight in the Christmas lights and snow were captivating – as was her “no fear” approach when visiting Santa Claus at the mall (three times over). 

As we head in to 2009, take some time to reflect on your 2008 “family firsts”. It will bring a smile to your face – guaranteed.

Happy New Year!

Kelley Scarsbrook is a proud Stay at Home Mom who writes bi-weekly for Black Press.  You can visit her websites at www.thestayathomemother.com and www.enterprisingmomsnetwork.com